--- title: "The Wounds We Bring to Work: What Entrepreneurship Has Taught Me About Trauma, Survival, and Success" description: When I decided to step fully into entrepreneurship, I expected it to challenge me. 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I knew there would be a learning curve. I knew I would have to become more comfortable with marketing myself, managing the financial side of a business, making decisions without someone else giving me permission, and accepting that there would always be some level of uncertainty involved. What I didn't expect was how much entrepreneurship would teach me about myself. Over the last year, as I have built my private practice and watched something that was once just an idea become a real and growing business, I have found myself confronting parts of my own story in ways I didn't anticipate. In many ways, entrepreneurship has become another avenue for personal growth. It has shown me where I have changed, where I have healed, and where old beliefs and survival patterns still have a tendency to quietly show up. I have spent years learning about trauma, both professionally and personally. I understand that our experiences can shape the beliefs we develop about ourselves, other people, safety, success, relationships, and the world around us. I also believe deeply in post-traumatic growth and in our ability to create lives that are not defined by what has happened to us. But knowing these things intellectually doesn't mean I am somehow exempt from experiencing them myself. And entrepreneurship has given me a front-row seat to some of my own patterns. One of the biggest has been my relationship with work. I have always been a hard worker. For most of my life, I considered that one of my greatest strengths, and I still do. My ability to work hard, persevere, figure things out, and keep moving forward has allowed me to accomplish things that at different points in my life probably seemed unlikely. Those qualities helped me build a career, pursue multiple degrees, become a therapist, and eventually take the risk of leaving the security of traditional employment to build something of my own. But owning a business has made me look more closely at where some of that drive comes from. There is a difference between working hard because I am passionate about something and working hard because some part of me still believes that I have to constantly secure my own survival. There is a difference between ambition and feeling as though it is never quite safe to stop. That has been difficult for me to recognize at times because overworking is rewarded in our culture, particularly in entrepreneurship. We celebrate the person who is always building, always working, always pursuing the next opportunity. From the outside, survival can look a lot like ambition. For me, however, there are times when the drive to keep going has been about more than ambition. I have had to recognize how deeply I learned to depend on myself and how easily that can translate into believing that I always need to be doing more to make sure I will be okay. Even after creating more stability in my life, there can still be an internal pressure to keep producing, keep building, keep earning, and keep preparing for the possibility that everything could somehow disappear. The circumstances have changed. Sometimes the nervous system's story takes a little longer to catch up. I have noticed this in my relationship with financial success too. Building my practice has given me moments I should be incredibly proud of. There have been months when I have looked at what the business generated and realized that I created something that once existed only as an idea. I took the risk. I built the practice. I developed the relationships. I showed up when I was afraid. I did the work. And yet, I have noticed how quickly I can minimize those accomplishments. Instead of simply allowing myself to feel proud, my mind can immediately qualify the success. Maybe it was just a good month. Maybe it won't happen again. Someone else is making more. I should probably be doing more. It isn't really *that* impressive. At times, I have even felt hesitant to talk about financial successes because an old part of me wonders whether people would believe me. That realization stopped me. Why wouldn't they believe me? There was no actual evidence that people wouldn't. The evidence in front of me was quite literally the opposite: I had built the business, and the numbers were real. But the feeling wasn't coming from the evidence in front of me. It was connected to an older story about myself—a story that said I wasn't enough, that success like this didn't quite belong to someone like me, or that if I did accomplish something significant, somehow it needed to be explained away. That has been one of the most fascinating parts of entrepreneurship for me: realizing that sometimes **our lives change faster than the stories we carry about ourselves.** We can become successful and still feel like the person who once struggled to survive. We can become financially stable and still operate from scarcity. We can become respected professionals and still walk into certain rooms wondering whether we belong there. We can have evidence of our competence sitting directly in front of us and still hear an old voice asking, *Who do you think you are?* The more I began noticing these things in myself, the more I started thinking about the ways our histories inevitably enter the businesses we build. Entrepreneurship is often discussed as though every challenge has a strategic solution. If you're not growing, improve your marketing. If you're overwhelmed, delegate. If you're underpaid, raise your prices. If people don't know about you, become more visible. If an opportunity comes along, take it. Those can all be excellent pieces of advice. But as a therapist, I can't help but wonder about what happens underneath the strategy. What happens when someone knows they need to raise their prices but has spent much of their life learning to keep other people happy? What happens when someone knows visibility would help their business grow, but being seen also means opening themselves up to judgment and rejection? What happens when a business owner desperately needs help but has learned through experience that depending on other people isn't safe? What happens when someone has tied their worth to achievement for so long that resting feels less like self-care and more like failure? Suddenly, what looks like a business problem becomes much more complicated. This is not to suggest that every difficult business decision is a trauma response or that we should pathologize normal fear, uncertainty, or stress. Entrepreneurship is genuinely difficult sometimes. There are practical problems that require practical solutions. But I do believe our histories influence how we experience those problems. The same patterns that once helped us navigate difficult circumstances can follow us into successful ones. Hyper-independence can make us incredibly resourceful while also making delegation difficult. A strong drive to achieve can help us build extraordinary things while also making it difficult to recognize when enough is enough. Sensitivity to other people's needs can make us compassionate business owners while also making boundaries uncomfortable. Perfectionism can produce beautiful work while simultaneously keeping us from putting that work into the world. This is where I have become increasingly interested in the difference between honoring the qualities that helped us survive and continuing to let survival drive the decisions we make today. I don't want to get rid of the part of me that knows how to work hard. I love that part of myself. I don't want to erase the independence, determination, resilience, or ability to figure things out that came from my experiences. Those qualities have played an enormous role in creating the life I have today. What I am learning is that I can keep the strength without always needing the survival. I can work hard because I am excited about what I am creating, not because I am afraid of what will happen if I stop. I can make money and allow myself to acknowledge that I earned it. I can celebrate something I accomplished without immediately identifying the next mountain I need to climb. I can recognize an old story that tells me I'm not enough without treating that story as fact. Most importantly, I can become curious when I notice one of those patterns appearing. Instead of criticizing myself for it, I can ask: *Where is this coming from? What is this part of me trying to protect me from? Is this response based on what is happening in my life right now, or is it connected to something I learned a long time ago? And what would I choose if I were making this decision from the person I am today rather than the circumstances I once had to survive?* Those questions have become some of the most meaningful questions of my entrepreneurial journey. They are also what inspired the workshop I will be hosting this January, **The Wounds We Bring to Work: How Trauma Wounds Show Up in Entrepreneurship.** This workshop feels especially personal to me because I am not approaching the subject only as a therapist. I am approaching it as a therapist who became an entrepreneur and began recognizing these patterns in herself. During our time together, we will explore how our experiences and the stories we developed because of them can show up in areas such as visibility, money, success, perfectionism, boundaries, conflict, communication, people-pleasing, overworking, asking for help, and trusting ourselves as business owners. We will look at how protective patterns can simultaneously contribute to our success and make entrepreneurship more difficult, and we will talk about what it can look like to move from automatically responding from an old story toward making more intentional, values-aligned choices. My goal is not for anyone to leave believing that everything they do in their business is because of trauma. And this workshop isn't therapy. My hope is much simpler: that people leave understanding themselves a little better. Because I have learned that recognizing where a pattern came from does not mean I have to remain bound to it. My past will always be part of my story. In many ways, I am incredibly proud of what the woman who survived those earlier chapters learned how to do. She became resourceful. She became determined. She learned how to keep going when things were difficult. She got me here. But she doesn't have to be responsible for every decision about where I go next. There is something incredibly powerful about reaching a point in your life where you can look at an old survival pattern with gratitude for what it once did for you and still decide, *I don't need you to lead anymore.* That is the conversation I want to have in January. If you are an entrepreneur, private-practice owner, small-business owner, or someone considering entrepreneurship and you have ever wondered whether your past might be showing up in the way you work, lead, earn, rest, communicate, or pursue success, I would love to have you join me for **The Wounds We Bring to Work**. Because sometimes building the next version of our business isn't only about learning a new strategy. Sometimes it's about realizing that we no longer have to build our future from the same place we once had to survive. **The Wounds We Bring to Work** *How Trauma Wounds Show Up in Entrepreneurship* Live Virtual Workshop | January 2027 **Registration opening soon. Use this link to be added to waitlist for registration.** **https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfmT3Dp90ZcYFOiS1F4UuOpoh2FLwHEmQ-Dn2w3H5mz1KH4aQ/viewform?pli=1** *This workshop is educational and personal-development focused. 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